6 Comments
Sep 27Liked by Martial X

Glad you mentioned Farley in this. Great example of someone who every single person that met him liked. He had those internal battles that no one ever truly knew or saw though.

Then you have this which is true: The harsh reality is that no matter how much we may want to help or how much we know, you cannot force someone to change unless they truly want it for themselves.

So true.

I’ve found from my own experience but also being around others that there comes a point in time when the person really does want to change it for themselves. But whatever “it” is, is so deeply rooted and has taken control that they really are powerless. They want to stop, and no matter how strong they are, they can’t. It’s the first step in AA, NA, etc.

It goes back to your first illustration. Getting on top and aware early if one can.

Great post 👏

Expand full comment
author

Appreciate you for sharing your experience, Mike. 🙏

Agree with every word. Outer motivation it’s to be used sparingly.

At the end of the day, it’s our inner drive that saves the day.

Expand full comment

Thanks that is very helpful

Expand full comment
author

Glad to hear that Kalihi. 🙏

Expand full comment
Sep 28Liked by Martial X

Start with the Seven Deadly Sins and add from there:

Pride

Anger

Greed

Envy

Overindulgence

Sloth

Lust

I would add Fear to the list — at minimum.

Expand full comment
author

Appreciate you for sharing your thoughts. 🙏

Expand full comment